dating sites where woman messages first hi I'm dating coach Hayley Quinn and in this short video tutorial I'm going to be giv...
dating sites where woman messages first
hi I'm dating coach Hayley Quinn and in this short video tutorial I'm going to be giving you three copy and paste examples of great first messages you can send to women on dating apps [Music] now though I'm going to be giving you copy and paste messages in these examples it would make my day if you can actually take the learnings from these videos but then write messages that are entirely your own because remember you don't need a dating coach to write a script for your dating life instead you just really need to understand how Concepts like attraction work and feel confident enough that you can develop your skills to become great at writing your own first messages what's cool about the first messages I'm going to share with you today is you're going to see how all of them are created using direct quotes from the woman's profile so we're going to be using information that she has written on her profile and repurposing it into a great first message which she knows could only have been written for her now if the woman you want to message don't have any profile at all I have a video for that but it's not this one however I will include a link to it beneath this video and of course personalized messages obviously work so much better her because she doesn't want to feel like you're just spamming out the same message to 20 women every day she wants to feel like there's something specific about her profile that made you choose her hmm interesting so this feeling of being chosen is an incredibly important component to her feeling attraction to you and in order for you to be able to choose her you need to know what you're looking out for in women so if you're a little bit woolly on that at the moment you don't have a clear idea of what's important to you and you don't have clear standards for the women you're dating if you're constantly chasing please head over to haleyquin.com forward slash attraction I have a killer worksheet for you there about how you can develop your standards but anyway let's get on to these messages so the first one is great because all we really need are to have contributed to the profile is a list of stuff that she's interested in so for instance she makes might say that she likes skiing listening to David Bowie records and eating maltesers when we have a few details from a profile we can easily Stitch that into this template which goes so would your perfect first date involve blank blank blank and the blanks you guessed it are what you got from a profile so you could just straight up list them and say so would your perfect first date involve skiing David Bowie and maltesers however it would be more playful if you can describe those words better so so would your perfect first date involve bombing down a black run whilst listening to Starman with a pocket full of maltesers to keep you going just by describing that a little bit more it immediately makes it more unique and it's a very easy template for a first message so my second example of a great copy and face first message also uses a quote from their profile so this message begins blank blank so you go going to have to start by explaining to me what this is or what you mean by this so why this works is it actually Begins by posing a challenge to her you're not being a sycophant you're not being a fan you're actually encouraging her to kind of explain herself to you this demonstrates that you're coming at the whole dating thing as a selector as a man who's actively choosing who he invests his time in rather than a guy who's just chasing women around and what you quote it shouldn't be something that's really obvious like you like baking cookies you're gonna have to explain to me what this is or you like Muay Thai you're gonna have to explain to me what this is it should be when she says something a little bit more abstract or that's hard to understand so if she says for instance a maximalist I get that would be a good one to use there if she uses another word that you haven't heard before or expresses something unique about herself or uses an unusual phrase this is a perfect way to get your messages started by exploring who shares as a person which is an amazing trajectory for your conversations and so much more fun than just swapping factual details about your lives my final copy and paste message is to say quote um I think I scored zero out of three here but but I still think we have potential do you think we need to agree on everything question mark this is where if she stated what she wants in a guy and it doesn't conform to who you are you can kind of playfully challenge that and also create this tone again in the interaction where you you show that you're approaching dating as a guy who's selecting you're being a little bit more challenging you're questioning that criteria that she wrote down and in doing so you demonstrate a lot of social confidence and you're being really playful and fun it's an original first message so whilst on paper you may not match up to the qualities that she says she's looking for she may well become attracted to your Vibe and attitude I hope you found these examples simple easy to use and fun but what's most important to me is that you really start to challenge how you see attraction and to understand the Matrix of dating a little bit better for more information on this head to haleyquin.com forward slash attraction and I look forward to seeing you another time ...
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